'I'm husband free & kid free… I love my peace!': 50-year-old grandma raised kids her entire life as the oldest sibling and married young, now with 10 grandkids she refuses to babysit

This is a tricky one! Woman have been forced into mother positions for decades from very young ages. If you're the oldest daughter, you take care of the other siblings; if you get into a traditional marriage, then you are taking care of all of the kids; and if your kids have kids, as the grandmother, you are now also obligated to help care for those grandkids. It's all so exhausting. But then again, it takes a village to raise a family, right? 

 

This woman was the eldest sibling growing up and basically raised all of her brothers and sisters. Then, she got married at 20 and started having kids of her own. However, her husband became sickly and she had to get several jobs on top of being the mother and care taker for her ill husband. Now, a 50-year-old grandmother, her husband has passed and her kids have all grown up. She wants to live her life free and for herself. However, her kids now have kids of their own and come to her for help with babysitting, rearing, etc. She doesn't want to do any mothering roles anymore! But isn't that what you sign up for when you have kids, to be a mother for the rest of your life? But she was only 20 when she started having kids, did she even know better?? It's all so tricky…

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